Why Men Cheat Most

Do you ever find yourself wondering if your significant other is currently cheating or has ever cheated on you? Perhaps you wonder what might have driven them to infidelity. Are you concerned that if they cheated before, they might do it again? These are crucial questions that many women ask, but they often come up too late in the relationship.

In this blog post, we explore the reasons behind why men cheat, identify signs of infidelity, and discuss what steps you can take to find answers.

The insights shared in this blog post are drawn from the extensive experience of Mr. David Goldberg, an Advanced Board Certified Polygraph Examiner who has dedicated 22 ½ years to interviewing and testing thousands of men with a history of infidelity, uncovering their reasons and causes.

It's essential to emphasize that, under no circumstance, is this polygraph examiner saying cheating for any reason is justified or warranted by any man or woman. It is a selfish act and is very hurtful and damaging to others.

Men are just as susceptible to feelings and emotions as women.

That’s correct ladies, men are just like you. They experience sadness, hurt, pain, rejection, and inadequacy, both financially and in the bedroom. There are moments when men feel they are not good enough, thinking they might seem unattractive to their women or not handsome enough. However, unlike women, who often communicate their feelings openly, men tend to hide their emotions or keep them to themselves.

While women may also experience feelings of sadness, hurt, pain, rejection, inadequacy, or moments of not feeling attractive or sexy in bed, a significant difference emerges in communication. The notable contrast becomes evident when men ask women about what's bothering them. Most of the time, women openly express their feelings when asked about their concerns. On the other hand, when women ask men the same question, the common response often includes phrases like 'Nothing is wrong,' 'Everything is fine,' or 'Don’t worry about it.' This establishes a key distinction and sets the stage for the primary issue at hand – men tend to hide their emotions, despite the fact that they are experiencing them.

The reluctance of men to share their emotions with their significant others can be attributed to several various factors. Firstly, it may make them look weak or vulnerable. Secondly, there's a fear that opening up about what's bothering them to their significant other could escalate into a massive argument and blame game, leading to a lack of resolution. As a result, many men feel it's best to just shut up, keep quiet, and internalize their feelings.

Men are just like children—they both have a need for affirmation.

Similar to the way you'd tell your child, 'You look good today in your outfit,' before they head off to school, men value comparable positive acknowledgments. Picture your son or daughter returning home, and you express pride in their small accomplishment for the day, saying, 'Wow, you did all your homework before coming home from school today. I'm proud of you.' This mirrors the joy children feel when wanted and praised for doing good things—a reminder that, like children, men, too, seek affirmation in their lives. Men feel this same need, even for the smallest things.

For instance, if they usually wear cologne daily, you might say, 'You smell really good today; what is that on you?' or notice your man in something new, like a shirt, and comment, 'That shirt looks good on you and makes you look muscular.' The boost to a man's ego goes beyond what a woman might fully comprehend. As a result, the man will likely reciprocate these affirmations back to you. 'Honey, you look good today.' 'I like the way you do your hair.' Something along those lines. It doesn't have to be a daily occurrence, but consistency is key.

Now, you might wonder what this has to do with men cheating or your man being unfaithful. Well, it doesn't always start with the man jumping into the back seat of a car, getting a hotel, or going to another woman's house for sex. It typically begins with the man, or your man, seeking the affirmations you may not be providing from another woman. This is not a blame game about the woman or partner that the man is involved in a relationship with, meaning that just because the wife, girlfriend, or partner is not giving affirmations or giving them attention gives them the right to cheat. It is just reasons why they cheat.

Whether it's at his place of employment, his favorite lunch spot, someone he sees every day at the gym, or while running errands—this is how it begins.

What happens next, you may ask? The man, or your man, experiences an ego boost. 'Did I just get complimented by a woman? Wow, that felt good.' The man may even reciprocate by asking for a phone number, giving out his own phone number, or looking the woman up on social media. This leads to chatting, flirting, bantering back and forth, and eventually, sex becomes the culmination.

Most men who have been polygraph tested admitted that they knew the person they cheated with, as there was an opportunity, and they felt comfortable to do so. It's crucial to note that both parties involved had to comply.

Interestingly, most men who have been polygraph tested admitted that the women they cheated with were much more and far less attractive then their significant other. You might wonder as a woman, why would my man or any man have sex with that woman? It's because they had a connection first that led to sex; the sex was secondary.

Similarly, when a woman cheats, it's not primarily for sex. Instead, she must have an emotional connection before getting into bed with any man. This principle holds true for men as well, unless they are indifferent, simply don't care, and cheat with anyone or pay for sex.

The men who were polygraph tested all stated that before they actually had sex with the women, they flirted and communicated with them for a period ranging from 2 weeks to 30 days. The men who were polygraph tested revealed that after having sex with the other woman, they felt guilt. However, they cheated again because they were not receiving what they wanted from their significant other and found it in the other woman. This can be viewed as an excuse or justification, but it likely holds some truth, explaining why the cheating continued. The man, or your man, continues to get his ego inflated and hears things he is not told by his significant other, leading to a cycle of continued infidelity.

Now, you may be wondering if your significant other is caught cheating, will he cheat again? The answer is it could occur, depending on the individual. Is the man dedicated to being involved with one woman only and being a family man, or is he too wild and unable to settle down? Does he stray when his significant other doesn't pay attention to him after being flirted with? It all depends. There are also others who, having cheated, find themselves overwhelmed by guilt for the pain they've caused their significant other and their family. This guilt leads to a firm commitment never to repeat the mistake.

How do you truly find out if your man is cheating on you?

By having them take a polygraph test with an experienced and certified expert in relationship polygraph testing. Don't settle for a cheaper examiner; look for one with excellent reviews, multiple years of service, and extensive experience working with therapists and attorneys. This is the person you want to help you get closure.

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Navigating uncertainties in a relationship can be incredibly tough, impacting your overall happiness. Take that pivotal step towards peace of mind by connecting with the nation's top-rated polygraph examiner, Mr. David Goldberg.

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